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Dear Quota Team, 
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My company is fairly small – less than a thousand employees in one building. We recently all came back into the office after two years of remote work. 
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Here’s my question: our employee handbook prohibits employees from dating one another. This is very clearly outlined as a company policy. However, I recently found out that one of our sales reps, who happens to sit near me, has been dating a woman from customer service. 
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Apparently, the two of them started hanging out outside of work during the pandemic, and are now trying to keep their relationship under wraps, but there are a handful of us who know about it, and, obviously, gossip gets around pretty quickly. 
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What I’m wondering is whether or not I should report them to HR? I’m not close with either one of them, but they’re very obviously not following a stated policy. I doubt either one of them would get fired for it. Should I send an anonymous message? 
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Wondering in North Carolina 
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Dear Wondering, 
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After reading your question, we’re left wondering something too: who made you the sergeant of the office dating police? 
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Seriously, is there maybe something else that you should be focused on aside from which of your coworkers are dating one another? Maybe there is something in your CRM that might be a bit more important. But yeah, that would require you to temporarily tear yourself away from being neck-deep in other people’s business, and we can’t have that, can we?
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To be sure, workplace policies can have good intentions. And the ones that prohibit relationships between managers and their subordinates do make sense. But in this case, it sounds like two people from completely different departments, who are presumably both adults, have decided to enter into a consensual relationship. Who are you to try to stand in their way? 
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Not only is it none of your business, it also doesn’t sound like there’s a problem. You know what is a problem though? The personality flaw that causes someone to be petty, jealous, or vindictive enough to try to get their coworkers in trouble for the crime of falling for each other. 
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So no. You shouldn’t send an anonymous message. But what you should do is some self-examination to try to figure out why you would even want to. They’re not the ones with the problem, you are.